• MagicShel@lemmy.zip
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    9 days ago

    I was 3 when I attended my parents’ wedding. I guess I should note not my dad and birth mom.

    I met my birth mom many years later. She stressed how she and my dad were briefly married when I was born, so I wasn’t a bastard, and that she gave birth in FL, not MI — the only home I remembered — so I wasn’t a damn Yankee. Like she did me some kindness in both those cases.

    That was the attitude that led me to be quite happy with my circumstances — acting like I was in her debt over things I had no care over. So yeah, I attended the wedding of my dad and the only woman I’ll ever call mom.

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    I was around 20 years too late.

    They didn’t attend mine either, as it happens, on the grounds that they too were “late” by then.

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          Jesus jumped up christ!!! What a glutton for punishment! I can not even fathom that… I was married once, and after my divorce, I thought “I will never do that again.”

          My ex and I continued to co-parent, she got engaged and pregnant, then they split up. We continued to coparent, qnd eventually she came to me and confessed undying love to me and begged to get back together.

          I told her we could try and work things out, but I would never get married again. So we tried and lo and behold a few months later she was pregnant with someome elses child.

          Needless to say, each time she has begged to get back together in the 8 years since her 3rd child, i have declined.

          I cant imagine marrying and divorcing her 3 MORE TIMES!

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    9 days ago

    Yes, I’m the firstborn, but I was oneish when they got married, so I’m a bastard 😃

    Also attended my mum’s second wedding, about 7 years after her divorce from my dad. My mum and stepdad are still married 🥰

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    In China where my parents are from, people aren’t supposed to have sex before marriage, so I couldn’t possibly have been conceived before the marriage/wedding. Typical conservatism lol

    (Btw porn is illegal in like many area of the world, westerners are lucky to be able to enjoy… content… 🤭)

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      That’s right, it’s an issue in Catholicism too. That’s why my sister wasn’t conceived before marriage, she was just born a few months early 😉😉

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    They married ages before we were born. I attended my mother’s second marriage. I wasn’t invited to my father’s second marriage because his mistress was and is a fucking asshat.